Ya’ll know that  a lot of folks know my mom and know who she is and so when folks see things pertaining to her, they sometimes shoot me a note.  Well recently, someone posted a slew of her old talk show footage they had been keeping (blank stare) on You Tube and as a offshoot of that - she had had a small resurgence of attention by yet another generation or a revisit from those who were old enough to for it to be relevant back in the day.

My mom has basically been in semi-retirement, choosing to focus her attention on her own town. She has not been bothering anyone.  All the years of being cussed out by my fellow kneegrow bretheren has been quite trying and she just wanted to chill. 

Well it was nice to see that there are folks still stuck on stupid and still going on and on about her most infamous statement pertaining to what to do to a woman who has gotten completely out of control a la Airplane.  A firm smack in the mouth. If there was EVER a utterance of a sentence that could be taken back - that would be it.  She took it out the book, she revised her thinking (with a few words from me in the mix) and moved on. Well folks can’t seem to move on - as ignorant as some of us act on the daily, especially now - I don’t condone it - but I understand to paraphrase Chris Rock.

Anyhoo - I sighed when I saw the title on a public board over on Blackvoices  SMACK SHAHRAZAD ALI PLEASE I already developed a migrane.  I am no longer in the habit of fighting hard on behalf of my mom because it’s a mute point, but sometimes folks piss me off and I have to respond.  This thread pissed me off, because they are accusing her of doing something illegal with their damn credit cards. Which is NOT TRUE!  Let me repeat it’s NOT TRUE!  Then they put her picture up and make fun of her as a woman. Say all you want about what she writes, she’s used to it and you are entitled to your opinion - but don’t take it personal - what yo momma look like?  Mine is beautiful to be in her 60’s skin almost see through, not a wrinkle in site, so if you can’t present your opinion about the body of work without taking it to the body of the woman - then keep it to yourself. 

I don’t even hang out over there - forget it’s there most times, but I had to register and go through all this to post over there about this website thing:

Peace!

A friend of mine sent me this link and I wanted to pop through for a minute and respond to the Allegations against my mom…not the opinions about what you might think about her book, I won’t even go there about the unkind words about whether she is alive or not. She’s alive and well and was just on WAOK here in Atlanta this afternoon.  She was fine, doing some speaking engagements and enjoying her Grandkids and being an Activist in Philadelphia - but the posting of the you tube videos has brought her some business. Thanks (insert smirk here).

Her website is down and has been down for awhile. She, unfortunately was dealing with a web designer who reniged on his job concerning being her web master and she got a bad virus and it is currently not working and the web designer has left no one to speak the language.  We are working on it daily. She was quite distraught to know people were trying to contact and order from her and were being lost in space.

LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR!  She has NOT been involved in any phishing scam, out of all her intelligence - she has been slow to even get involved in the internet - so please believe she is NOT trying to get anyone’s credit card number to do anything illegal or distructive.  IF you have tried to order something from her - she never got it!

She also has not been invovled in any IRS or Molestation charges or any of the other nonsense that has been talked about on this board.  She lives in Philadelphia, she is member of several civil groups, she campaigns for our children in that very bad school system up there and she sometimes get on the radio and what not.

Of course being the cynics - you don’t have to believe me or anything like that.  That’s on you. I don’t hang out over here, but my friend was upset at the way you were talking about my momma.  I’ve seen it all before so it no longer effects me like that.  I know who she is and I also know that most of what she said 20 years ago is not only still relevant but very much on point for the condition of the interpersonal relationships between black men and women.  Might not like the package it came in, because we know we sensitive - but a lot of what she said holds much water in 2008.

I just really wanted to address the accusations that she was trying to scam or do something foul to someone. 

Pam

I have posted a couple of blogs about her in the recent history:  I’LL ALWAYS LOVE MY MOMMA  and posted some pictures -

I was there during it all and I was amazed and still am amazed at the way we get stuck and can’t wrap our minds around anything else, but what we are told to wrap our minds around. Do I agree with everything she said?  Nope, but do I have enough of a mindspace to check it out?  Yes.

So I just wanted to come on here and say if I’m not talking bout yo momma - please stop talking disparagingly against mine. If you don’t agree with what she had/has to say then FINE, that’s your right - but you might wanna to do it a bit more intelligently.

Well that isn’t the Cash Four - it’s how many days my child has been on the earth. I was thinking in the car this morning that this has been one doozy of a year for me and we are only 7 months into this whole 14 year old thing.  Of course, children can’t see that you are also growing and changing and how stressful it all can be. 

I mean no disrespect, I have a good kid and it’s damn near killing me, I have no idea how a parent who has real ‘issues’ makes it.  Kudos to you on the real. 

So much has gone on this 14th year of her existence.  I was just talking to her today about I was so tired of her 24 hour a day attitude like somebody did something to her.  If there ever was a time to drink and drug as an adult - this is it.  Let’s review what I’ve had to go through, cause this blog spot is about me, lol lol

• Being mad because I won’t get the flat stove top so she won’t have to clean the stove eyes
• Myspace
• The fight for freedom of hair
• Bedtime issues
• Phone Curfews
• The need to sleep 18 hours a day
• Can you ever come out the room
• Exactly how does your MP3 player give you all the therapy and parenting you need
• When did I become the most hated person on earth?
• When did I become the parent who is the wackest of all time?
• Yes you have two parents now and we both are going to weigh in and want to know what’s going on
• Dances - no not proms
• No you can’t read the black adult romance novels:  to much sex, to much fantasy and your hormones already poppin off like fireworks
• and of course Boys or should I say Boy..

I’m worn out just typing that stuff.  It’s a full time job, not to rear them necessarily as to balance it all out.  As knowledgeable as I deem myself to be, I am still learning while still growing.  I really don’t think after it’s all said and done that I have prepared myself, if I’m about to stroke out at 7 months into being 14. 

I think the thing that bothers me the most is the ‘perception’ that I’m a wack parent and that all the other parents are sooo cool.  She is the only one that even thinks this.  Her friends have to tell her constantly to calm the hell down - why are you acting so crazy about your parents being here, chaperoning us etc. etc.  My child hates me and it hurts. 

I stop myself on the daily from throwing myself at my mothers knees and apologizing profusely for….hating her at 14.

You wanna know what an even bigger issue is that I take full responsibility for….

She has what I call Raven Symoneitis - this is a disease that comes from letting Disney influence the views of your child when it comes to teenagdom.  They have single handily fucked up an entire generation.  Raven, Hannah Montana and nem flit around in fully decked out rooms, parents who smile and play music as they give their speeches, never popping em in the mouth. Raven has no curfew, she dates, I never saw her do a chore, the money just seems to flow - well welcome to the ‘middle class’ black child’s perception of the way it’s suppose to go.  They really don’t believe that it doesn’t happen that way.  It is very hard to present what you as a parent have worked hard for believing that you are giving your child the very best and they look at you side ways because some scripted show has told them - - that ain’t it! 

I regret letting that damn channel babysit her every day of my freaking life now.  It’s a hard perception to shake.

It’s funny. I remember telling her that I want to deal with Bill Cosby issues with her and not Degrassi High issues. So far she’s stayed in line with dear Vanessa (smile). I just really have been going through a lot inside emotionally as I have had to move far away from my continued ‘childhood’ and really put on my parent cap. 

Folks look to me like I have the answer. There are folks right now who tell me they are watching me closely because I’m trailblazing as their kids are on the cusp of this teenage thing. PLEASE BELIEVE THAT I, IRREGARDLESS OF WHAT I KNOW, AM STUMBLING..ALOT.  This is not coming easy to me, sometimes I’m scared I’m failing, I feel like I’m already on my reserve tank and I’m just getting started, lol 

This shit ain’t all it’s cracked up to be - but I’m in it to win it because I love this girl and I know somewhere deep down inside and sometimes even out in the public, she loves me to.  I will just wait patiently till she and I get to the place my mom and I am FINALLY at - I just hope it don’t take as damn long as it took us - cause I’m sensitive, lol lol

How ya’ll doing?  I hope you enjoyed the pictures from yesterday. I am still kinda in a semi-fog about the whole thing, but denial is not an option if you want to stay on top of your teen, so I’m smacking my ass out of it, lol

Well here we gooooo…..

I have found a texture of hair that suits me for the summer!  That whole wake up thing did come in handy because by the time Caun woke up on Saturday morning, I had took out the old hair, relaxed and re-installed, lol (from this day forth we will be using more of the weave lingo, so install is the adding of tracks).  I found out a couple of things.  The black glue holds longer than the much touted and more expensive Liquid Gold.  There is a new remover that took my stuff out in like 15 minutes!!  Spray Olive Oil on your tracks to help them along.  The new lines of specifically for weave styling products are great!

Um, Caun - sitting in the middle of the IHOP to watch the children is overkill, please come join us.

Um Mini-me "Let Sleeping Dogs Lie" is not appropriate.  I know you read on a sophomore in college level, but these books have too much sex, to much fantasy and you already got the hormones raging.  Let’s go to the bookstore and find something appropriate cause black romance novels at 14 ain’t it.

Caun:  He can pay for her dinner and buy her a rose all he wants, ain’t no layaway plans up in this camp

If I close my eyes can I pretend my child doesn’t have a crush - ok, friend that’s a boy…

Finally scored one on Craigslist!  Now I have three couches in my living room.

If you keep spending invisible money will you be in an invisible hole when its’ over

The insanity that is me has decided that Mini-me and I have this photogenic quality that makes us look way more glamorous than we really are…lol

No we didn’t get picture people jumping off through our own making in the guest bedroom to take Graduation Pictures?

Count down to Mom landing in this fair city

Did they say they needed this by 3pm est.  Let me go, lol

I’m sitting here now about to start and finish up a project I couldn’t do this week because I was doing other things for the job. I don’t want to be in her working my JOB on a Sunday, the sun is gorgeous today, but such is life. 

Well we have survived the first dance. I’ll save my ‘musings’ for Monday, but she had a good time and is happy as a lark.  The whole milestones for the teenager, thing can certainly kill you.  I’ve felt my heart stop a dozen times in the last couple of days.  They grow up, they really do.  SIGH  The Bright spot was look how ‘thin’ I’m presenting in that picture, lol lol  Setting my next 5 lb. goal for after my mom leaves, cause I know it’s gonna be hard.

I love this new texture of ‘hair’ I put in during my re-install at like 7am on Saturday morning.  My body is so set these days. I can’t sleep late. I hate that!  If I go to bed at midnite, then I’m up around 6:30.  SIGH SIGH.  I’ll be rocking this texture a couple more times. 

One of the things I was working on was decorating for a contest. It was themed "Music through the Ages" and I brought Motown out in full force.  On a budget of $30 we (Marguita Stewart and I) took our vision and made it real.  We were quite satisfied and loved it.  We didn’t win, Score one for the Dollar Store.  I won’t go there - but Motown might have been a bit too much Fro Town..Oh well, ease on down, ease on down the road.  Don’t you carry nothing that might be a load - come on ease on down, ease on down the road!

Well I just wanted to drop in and let ya’ll know that I’m alive. Should be an active week.  I’ll have all kinds of events and what not seeing as this is Graduation week, Momma visit week etc. etc. 

PAIR OF SISSORS

$5.99

BOLT OF FABRIC

$25.00

LEAVING MY HUSBAND ALONE TO LONG

PRICELESS!

Have a good weekend and look out for weekend posts to make up for this week!