the adventures of pamalicious

As part of the 2008 Adventure, I have secured a once a month blog entry from Caun Magnegro. Nah I can’t tell you which day or whatever (ya’ll know that’s asking too much) - I’m just happy he wanted to express himself through the blog.  This will be raw - no editing or anything - just a straight cut and paste. He has no subject boundaries, so I don’t know what ya’ll going to be reading, lol

Sooo January is in the can and posted below.  Please show your love for………CAUN!

 

My vision of our future is 20/20. My creativity to make it happen for my family is in the likes of Berry Gordy, Sir Richard Branson, Clive Davis, Pat Croce and Russell Simmons.

      It is amazing what a good woman can do for a man. This has been an amazing year. I have not experienced a love like this in any relationship I have been in. It is one thing when you go through situations and become at ends with your significant other. That can test your relationship to the tilt whether it be marriage or just long term. It is another thing when no matter the situation that rises, there still is peace within. Not that I can run over her, nor she over me, we just have an understanding and a respect towards each other. We always know that we can conquer whatever is thrown at us, by working together rather than against each other. It’s a relationship like that, that makes me want to come home and be with one woman. I’ve been around the world, in and out, fly-by-night, on bootycalls and marriage. None have sustained because, eventually, it is discovered that we had less in common than we thought. I am, by no means, the perfect man. Nor do I want the perfect woman. But I can say I was blessed to have someone that will accept my flaws yet know I have what it takes to keep us………US!! And being a father to Mini-Me is one of the greatest joys ever. She is a very gifted and creative young lady.

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1.  We met on Blackplanet

2.  I approached him - leaving him a note

3.  The first time we spoke on the phone he almost electrocuted himself trying to put a dryer in.

4.  Our first date was to see Last Holiday at Phipps Plaza.  I met him under the poster for the movie

5.  His car broke on our second date and he walked about 3 miles to meet me.  I didn’t know this until after the date.

6.  The first time we were intimate - he basically never left.

7.  The first time I went to his house - it was to help him pack.

8.  Before we moved in together he rented an apartment for 28 days - he never unpacked or spent one evening in it.

9.  We have had only one ‘argument’ in our relationship.

10.  He is one of only three people who have ever seen my….’pictures’ (wink wink).

11.  We usually sleep butt to butt

12.  We didn’t consummate our marriage on our wedding night because ‘Aunt Flow’ showed up the MORNING OF OUR WEDDING.

13.  We didn’t have one arguement about the wedding planning.

14.  We say I Love You at least 6 time a day.

15.  If I ever take my ring off - he gets on one knee and puts it back on for me.

16.  Everytime he cooks he dresses in a costume, ranging from an electrician to a cable guy.

17.  Every night he gets me a glass of water.

18. I sleep in the nude and he sleeps in boxer/briefs.

19. We both don’t mind the messy bedroom. 

20.  We talk on the phone at least three times a day

21.  We have a bet that I can’t make 1000 jokes about his feet by December. I am on course to win.

22.  We both snore

23.  I’m more ghetto oriented than him.

24.  We both LOVE taking pictures.

25.  Our two gimmies are Mary J. Blige and Tyrese.

26.  I have accidently called him by my first husbands name about three times. They have the same first initial.

27. He’s the worker and I’m the slacker.

28.  He’s a driver and I’m a passenger.

29.  We both curse ALOT when we speak to one another.

30.  Goddess had a ‘moment’ when she heard us getting busy.  I had to take care of that.

31.  We both think we got strippers bodies.

32.  We’ve made up several slogans we use on a daily basis.

33. I named him CAUN and it’s stuck.

34.  I have half of a walk in and he has 1 1/2 closets.

35.  I don’t like tongue kissing unless it’s leading to sex and he enjoys licking on me to gross me out.

36.  We both got off Blackplanet at the same time.

37.  We are both technology whores

38.  Our Song is Adore by Prince

39.  He’s right handed and I’m left handed.

40.  He’s 6′1 and I’m 5′2 1/2

41.  I have taken over all of his PJ’s.

42.  His favorite Sports people are:  The Washington Redskins, Lakers and USC.  I am REQUIRED to know this.

43.  He gets up at 5:00 am and I get up at 6:45am  every morning since we got serious he has called and woke me up at the right time.

44.  He’s spoiled me terribly and I spoil him as well.

45.  He is deaf in one ear due to years of DJ’ing and I am damn near blind.  We laugh at this constantly.

46.  We both have a young, jovial attitude about life - even in the face of drama and issues.

47.  I used to wait at the McDonalds when he went to pick up his daughter, cause his ex didn’t want me on her block (she still doesn’t but fuck her).

48.  I’ve only ridden in his Honda less than 10 times since we’ve met.

49.  We have a Malcolm vs Martin view on all things black/white. 

50.  I love this man and he loves me.

 

 

Hey peeps what’s up?  I took a day off to rest my brain from the net yesterday - you understand.

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After nine months and lots of prayers……….   

We had a Wonderful Weekend!

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Dearest -

On January 20, 2007, I stood before friends, family, the minister and God and pledged to you that I would love, honor, take care of you through sickness, health, richer, poorer etc.  I didn’t take those vows lightly.  Twenty some odd years ago I stood in that same situation and it wasn’t the same, so I know the difference.  I was and am in love with you, it has not wavered since we declared our love for each other.  We are so suited to be together.  Your Ying to my Yang, Your Martin to my Malcolm, Your Hood to my Country, Your dreams and reality to my dreams and reality.  People must really think that I consciously said well I’ll just be single and play the damn dating game for 14 years ON PURPOSE!  I had not run across the type of man that possessed the type of character and whereforall and ability to love and when I did - I damn sure married him.

The other day Steve Harvey was talking about how women need to make up their minds and say what they want.  I knew what I wanted and I knew that it would take some time and some work on self to get into the position where I WOULD BE CHOSEN.  I followed those rules and they worked for me AMEN. 

I say all of that to say to you my dear husband that I wear my rings proudly daily and I hold my head up high as your wife and I am here for you.  Irregardless of the things that were said today by people who don’t know you and people who wish they still did, you are NOT THOSE THINGS. I know that you put on your man face and you take it - alot of men take it and take it because there is nothing that they can do, but I don’t want you to eat any of what was said.  It came from a plate of poison that was cooked up on a stove of ignorance and immaturity. 

I just wanted to let you know that I got your back and we are going to make it through this storm and your prayers will be answered.  We have to hunker down, refocus and move forward as a unit.  We will NOT let this rock our foundation or our groove.  When we lay down at night and when we wake up in the morning, WE got a Love Thang and fuck the rest. 

So as an example to men and a continued pillar of example for women that good men do exist, even if you to flawed to see it, keep your head up, your shoulders back and this too shall pass…

I love you,

YOUR WIFE!