the adventures of pamalicious

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On the real though - Happy Valentines Day to anyone who feels like they wit it.  I know this can be a rough time for folks. 

I woke up this morning to Mike and his Thriller 25th Anniversary CD/DVD collection laying beside me - He got on the MARTA train to a special picture (hehehe) filled with love on his cell phone.  Tonite we will do dinner at Chopstixs - an old haunt of Whitney and Bobby’s and a VERY GOOD High End Chinese Restaurant.

I won’t belabor anyone today - I wanna go finish doing my reading and see what others are doing or not doing today.  I’ll just leave you with a post Caun did last year for Valentines Day:

CAUN

First I want to say that I married my better half. Never did I think I could find someone with so much in common as I. I enjoy being married. I had been on the internet for less than a year and already I found what I wanted.

How Stormeka caught my attention was not complex or brain science. It was simple….she didn’t give in so easy. She took her time to know me and allowed me to know her. She didn’t play any games. It was up to me to accept her. I like that. Also, as I opened up to her about me, she saw me for the potential I had rather than the past I left behind. But also on my end, I was ready to settle down again.

There are 4 things I look for in a woman. These 4 things are essential to me. Whether they are to another man I don’t know. The 4 things are Age, Looks, Weight, and Attitude. There are others like employment and children but the first 4 are the most important. What was also important was what am I bringing to the table.

I have to admit that as men we will bring the lies to the table while the women bring the drama and all they’ll have is fast food (quickie) After the fast food they both realize why they can’t make a good meal. I didn’t want to juggle women because if I did that then I couldn’t be a good father because every person in my life needs my time in one way or another. And Stormeka didn’t blame her past relationships on me. I am not judged and she is not lied to.

I realized that while out there dating I noticed that a lot of sisters did not look at themselves real hard and ask are they the material the man, they would like to have, is looking for. A lot of them can not handle brutal truth. I can understand that a woman does not want to be stepped on, walked over or ran through. But also is it right to be overbearing, argumentative and stubborn when you are trying to build a relationship? Also opening your legs first week out will not keep a man. If that is your preference so be it. But you are wondering what happened to him, think about it. Why should he call you back?

Another thing I loved about Stormeka was she was not desperate to make this work. She let it come to her. She was not clingy, whiney or attention needy. She did her while I did me. And finally together we did us.

Sista’s I do recommend that if you are with a man and you feel like you are not his only one, then don’t make him your only one and close the candy shop until you feel you are the only shop he is coming to. Brothers I didn’t mean to put it out there like that but I got 3 daughters and I have got to teach them the game before the game teaches them.

I don’t know how this piece will be taken but I did speak what I have experienced. Hopefully this will enlighten somebody.