Comments on: What about your friends? http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 23:10:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: ChezNiki http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3560 ChezNiki Fri, 01 Feb 2008 05:36:03 +0000 http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3560 My mother (who Im not speaking to this week) always said that its harder to make friends as an adult, and that you have to keep a couple from childhood. Because I live in here (Boston) by myself I wouldve liked it if I was emotionally closer to my natural family. But it didnt work out that way. My long term friends have men and families and they are really good about including me, but sometimes I get left out. Its a combo of not trusting new people (that's the NYC in me, <i>"Who you wit?"</i>) and my inability to put up with any new bullsh*t (that's the 40 year old in me). Hard to meet new people, even harder to meet men. You can send me the therapy bill next week :-P My mother (who Im not speaking to this week) always said that its harder to make friends as an adult, and that you have to keep a couple from childhood.

Because I live in here (Boston) by myself I wouldve liked it if I was emotionally closer to my natural family. But it didnt work out that way. My long term friends have men and families and they are really good about including me, but sometimes I get left out.

Its a combo of not trusting new people (that’s the NYC in me, “Who you wit?”) and my inability to put up with any new bullsh*t (that’s the 40 year old in me). Hard to meet new people, even harder to meet men.

You can send me the therapy bill next week
:-P

]]> By: deepnthought http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3547 deepnthought Thu, 31 Jan 2008 20:06:33 +0000 http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3547 all I am going to say is.. email me. With the exception of the fact that I am 29 and you 40 and you are married with a child. I can soooooo relate. If you email me, I will email you back. don't forget I am in the A. all I am going to say is.. email me.

With the exception of the fact that I am 29 and you 40 and you are married with a child. I can soooooo relate. If you email me, I will email you back. don’t forget I am in the A.

]]> By: Monica C. http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3527 Monica C. Wed, 30 Jan 2008 20:19:39 +0000 http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3527 As you know, we're close in age (I'm 40), and I can definitely relate to what you're saying. I moved to Dallas about 10 years ago and was fortunate enough to meet a great group of people in no time at all. I went through a long period of realization, however, that the women in this social circle were not my real friends - not even the woman to whom I felt the closest and with whom I shared the most (she was in my wedding, she was my baby doctor (she's an OB) and she's godmother to my youngest). Once I had that realization, I came to appreciate the fact that I still had this great social network of talented, beautiful African-American women (couples, really) - and we all had kids the same age. So, we get together for birthdays (child and adult), we arrange playdates for our kids, we're all going together to see Chris Rock in a month or so, we travel together, send Christmas cards, have Super Bowl parties with each other - and it is all good. But are these women that I could call up and tell my REAL business to? No, not likely. But could I call if I was in a pinch and needed someone to pick up my kids from school, or bring me a meal at the hospital (Heaven forbid), or help my husband find a job? Definitely. Social network? Yes. Ride or die? Nope, but that's cool, too. I have a male best friend with whom I have been close for 20 years, along with a few other friends from back in the day, so I'm good. As you know, we’re close in age (I’m 40), and I can definitely relate to what you’re saying.

I moved to Dallas about 10 years ago and was fortunate enough to meet a great group of people in no time at all. I went through a long period of realization, however, that the women in this social circle were not my real friends - not even the woman to whom I felt the closest and with whom I shared the most (she was in my wedding, she was my baby doctor (she’s an OB) and she’s godmother to my youngest).

Once I had that realization, I came to appreciate the fact that I still had this great social network of talented, beautiful African-American women (couples, really) - and we all had kids the same age.

So, we get together for birthdays (child and adult), we arrange playdates for our kids, we’re all going together to see Chris Rock in a month or so, we travel together, send Christmas cards, have Super Bowl parties with each other - and it is all good.

But are these women that I could call up and tell my REAL business to? No, not likely.

But could I call if I was in a pinch and needed someone to pick up my kids from school, or bring me a meal at the hospital (Heaven forbid), or help my husband find a job? Definitely.

Social network? Yes. Ride or die? Nope, but that’s cool, too.

I have a male best friend with whom I have been close for 20 years, along with a few other friends from back in the day, so I’m good.

]]> By: Jaila http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3526 Jaila Wed, 30 Jan 2008 19:00:59 +0000 http://www.pamalicious.com/2008/01/30/what-about-your-friends/#comment-3526 man if i lived closer.... *note to self, one more reason that i have to move* man if i lived closer….

*note to self, one more reason that i have to move*

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