In da club
Pamalicious on Jan 29th 2008 10:36 am
Hey people! Early on in the blog I’ve indicated I have the two stresses: money and my family. I also have two anxiety points as well. I’ve identified one which is the mall. I’ve written about my issues with the mall and shopping there before. Well now it’s time for me to reveal my other one….
The Club. Yep, I have so much anxiety trying to be all up in the club. Talk about feeling like a tulip in a field full of Sunflowers. Just shrunk to nothingness.
I missed that crucial period where you develop club skills. I was married and wasn’t hanging like that. However, if I look back even farther - that which makes me fabulous never has been visible from the club.
I, unfortunately, am that girl who holds the coats (gasp). Yep, I never get asked to dance. I never can really figure out exactly why that happens.
I also get ’star struck’. Exactly what is the skill needed to go in your closet and get that fabulous? Who keeps actual club wear, shoes etc. on a constant basis. Every time I’m trying to go, I have to buy something and I always feel it’s never as hot as the other sisters. Dammit it! I can’t compete! And now that I don’t even have to, I’d like to think I could.
When I tell ya’ll I get the big eyes I’m not lying. I walk in and I scan the room and just get anxiety. Now there are instances where I am comfortable - old school pop clubs, gay clubs etc. but the typical black club overwhelms me.
I try to figure it out. I mean even going out with my girls. I look at "Janet" and she’s so much more well put together. We enter the club and all of them are whisked away..except for me. Now I will get in there, and be in the group dance, lol but the club for me is definitely an ego buster.
Does anyone else experience this?
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lol u know i can relate. I’m not the coat holder tho…im the one who has to keep track of the purses and the monkeys. I once had a guy get mad cause i saw him coming and told a friend (watch out for that coon) and he was like damn, why u blockin LOL
Your mall situation is my walmart situation. I dont go to either but walmart is the WORSE!!!!
I am usually posted up by the bar or some other good vantage point. I go to the “grown & sexy” spots (so they say………….) and you are liable to see some of everything. I fall pleasantly within the middle ground some place but there is always the chicks there in Sunday dresses & business suits so…..I guess whatever’s clever.
I am the one dancing by myself but holding id’s and money cause what I wear always has pockets.lol
I am also the stand by girl friend. If a guy doesn’t get the hint and is still grabbing and all in your face. I come up and say, didn’t she tell you she had someone? Well here I am and I don’t want you touching my girl’s tail. lol